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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op don't say anything.  It's not your place.  I do think it's sad you married into this type of family and that you allow them around your children.  Honestly I would have zero to do with them as I can see myself cursing them out over their stupidity.  I'm sure they smile in your face all while calling you the N word behind your back.[/quote]

OP here:  I think you've gone a bit far here.  I am pretty confident that DH's family does not use the N-word.  They are racially ignorant and definitely behind the times, but not hateful.  I am not sad I married into the family because DH is worth it.  The easy thing to do for my ego would be to take an unyielding stand and split the family up, but family is all we have in this world.  I am not going to cut off the parents who raised the man I love and break both their hearts and his in the process unless I really have to.  If they do not learn to bite their tongue before my children are old enough to understand, then they will be getting their walking papers.  For now, I am willing to work with them, as annoying as that is.[/quote]

Well which is it Op, are they are racist or not?  Based upon your initial post you said they are not accepting of minorities unless they are rich, because they feel they are too good.  Why are you flip flopping, unless this is actually a troll post?

The grandparents should already be biting their tongue around your kids.  If they are still saying stupid racist stuff around your kids then you are truly failing your kids and inviting them to grow up with a host of self hatred issues.  I understand you love your DH, but how about a little self love first by not entertaining people who can't stand your skin ton and accept you only because you bring $$$ to the table. [/quote]

OP here:  Is it really so hard to understand that people can hold racist attitudes without dropping the N word every ten seconds and burning crosses on people's lawns?  [b]They hold negative views of other races[/b] based on nothing more than race, but aren't rabid, virulent bigots.[/quote]

:roll: So basically they are racist.  Most racist people aren't burning crosses in people yards.  I mean seriously get real.   And yes they are bigots.  For all your supposed book smarts, you sound very, very dumb. [/quote]

But don't worry guys!  They are miraculously able to not have these views when it comes to their grandkids.  I still can't tell if OP is the issue here or if she and her husband suck for exposing their kids to this.  [/quote]

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