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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]op here again--also why I asked on an anonymous forum and not say something to them or DH, because wasn't sure if it was my pregnancy hormones or if this is something that is worth discussing.  I have not said anything to my inlaws other then to offer to help them plan/offer suggestions when they told us.[/quote]
Did you not say that your kid has already been to Disney -- that your parents live in FLA and so your kids will always have easy access to Disney? So know you are annoyed that your in-laws are paying for the other kids to go to Disney, the same place you have already been and have acess to and will admittedly go to on many other trips? I.just. can't.[/quote]

It's not about the money. Someone else suggested we offer to pay, which I am going to suggest to my husband. [b]It's about being included in a big "family" trip that included the other grandchildren. When I go it's because my parents live there. It is not the all inclusive deal you may be imagining. One day one park home to sleep. Not the resort/package trip my Inlaws are doing.[/b] I just mentioned my ffrequency/ that we've been as was being transparent and wanted honest feedback and thought that could be a reason for the non invite.[/quote]

YOU may be seeing this as "a big family trip" but clearly your in-laws do not and I'd bet they'd be baffled that you think it shortchanges your own kids. They see it as a trip for them SIL's family, period. Their money, their time, their choice. I think you're seeing this as being cut out of something you feel should have been for everyone when they were just figuring your kids have done and will do Disney over and over, and SIL's won't. You are inflating this into a slap at your kids and by extension yourself when frankly they may have had zero agenda like that. They know you have frequent access to Disney and likely will for years. I would bet they even would say, "But we figured you and the kids would be tired of Disney since you've been there and are able to go whenever."

They probably felt you might feel insulted if they DID offer Disney, that you'd respond, "Well, we go there anyway, no thanks." They can't read your mind.

The in-laws probably just figure that Disney is basically grandma and grandpa's back yard to your kids, but it's a big-deal destination to SIL's kids. And I would feel the same way in their shoes.

You cannot blame them for not knowing that you want your kids to get a "resort/package trip" that visiting your parents doesn't provide. [/quote]

The ILs can do as they wish with their (THEIR) money.

And they are not your parents - so even if you have a beef with what you think is unequal treatment, you (OP) have no standing here.  They are not your parents.

You sound like a spoiled brat.[/quote]

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