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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexless_marriage
Obviously everyone will have their own opinion.  Ten times a year seems the most common definition.  We were at 10-11 for several years until I, the husband, told my wife that if we wanted a healthy marriage we needed a healthy sex life and that meant at least once a week.  Things are getting better.  Not great, but getting better.[/quote]

Pretty much what happened with my DW and me.  Except it took more drastic steps.  She always shut me down, had sex 2-3x a year on avg.  Sometimes 4-5 on a good year.   I was so incredibly frustrated and resentful.  Wasn't going to leave my kids, period.  Finally, after 25 yrs I had had it.  Never once cheated, but I left the house after another lack of sex fight, didn't answer her repeated phone calls til midnight.  Told her I wasn't coming home because I wasn't going to live without sex anymore.  Before sunrise, she left a msg saying that she promised to change.  We've been having sex 2-4 x a mth for the last several yrs now.  She's never made me feel like she was doing it out of spite or didn't really want to.  If she made it seem like a mercy fuck, I'd had left, but she hasn't.

I can't F-ing believe that I barely had sex thru the majority of my marriage.  She's always refused to talk about, refused Therapy all those yrs.  To this day, I still don't know what the problem was and probably never will.  I still have loads of resentment that I try to control, but it has always prevented me from completely opening up to her and baring my soul and returning unconditional love.  Everything about her is 100% compatible to me other than the sex issue and I do love her.  However, in hindsight, No I never would have married her.  Sex is too damn important.  OTOH, I would never choose to go back in time simply because with all the lack of sex, I would never give up my children.
The dilemma that non-sex spouses imposes on their loved ones is tremendous and outrageously unfair.  I pray my children don't fall into the same trap.

If you are a man and dating/engaged and the sex life just isn't there ...............  run as fast as you can.  [/quote]

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