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[quote=Anonymous]I get it OP.  I think it's ok to not want kids - there is no shame in that, and there is even wisdom - no one who doesn't want to parent should be pressured into it.  No child should have a parent who doesn't willing embrace the job.

I have kids because it was deeply important to my husband.  I was more on the fence than you, but I would have been quite happy with my life without having kids of my own.  We married late, had fertility struggles, and ended up w/ twins.

I love my children, and can't imagine wishing them away.  But I also deeply miss my childfree days.  I mourn the things I can't/won't get to do.  I mourn the marriage I had before we were consumed w/ parenting small children.  I've aged more in the few years since my kids were born than in the decade prior.

Parenting is hard.  Really really hard.  Trust yourself and what you know you do and do not want.  See if there is a way to work through this issue with your husband.  Get professional help to do that.  Respect his desires and thoughts as much as you want him to respect yours.

But don't have kids for someone else.  That isn't fair to you or the kid(s).

Good luck.[/quote]

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