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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, you have many of your "observations" totally wrong. Allow me to correct them-

I would have LOVED to attend an ivy, it was not in the cards mostly because of $$$. I was given a full scholarship to the school I attended, and did the best I could with what I had. But dont' think for a second had I had the opportunity to attend an Ivy, I wouldn't have (never pursued it as it was not a viable option).

I am no dummy, the networking possibilities and the sphere of influence that one will automatically be privy to in an ivy league school is unparallelled. You can try to argue with this from any which way, but I will never believe that any top state school can unequivocally offer the same degree of networking that an Ivy can. Maybe not fair but absolutely true so yes of course I want that for my son. And any parent that is going to be self righteous and say that is not important, frankly I do not believe. Its a dog eat dog world now more than ever, and any opportunity for a young adult to get one step ahead needs to be taken.

While I do not think him attending the school he is leaning towards is necessarily a mistake I do not think it will offer him everything I know he is ripe for taking advantage of and yes that includes being taught my world class professors, meeting people who will can ultimately help him post college and developing a successful network to help him once he graduates. I can honestly say it has the least to do with the name/prestige, you may choose to believe or not believe that, but everything I have stated here is truthful in my rationale as to why I feel so strongly about this. [/quote]

Please tell us this was a bad attempt at trolling. Otherwise this is just sad.  [/quote]

The more she writes the more it becomes clear that this is all about [i]her[/i] unfulfilled dreams. And the primary reason she comes up with is networking. Networking. Because the only place you can network is Yale. Please.

Taking you seriously for a moment, you network within your field. You undergraduate school is the least important. And if he is choosing a specific university because of his interests (as opposed to yours, OP) then he is probably doing a better job of scoping out that magic network you dream of.

OP, I'm sorry you have such a restricted view of what college is. This is just an extension of the screwed up values of our parenting generation in which everything a child does must be about that magic ring down the line. They have to do a sport and 5 billion APs and study mandarin so they can get into the kind of college you can brag about to your friends and then its not about learning its about connections they make while they are there. What a waste. Good for your DS that he has better values.

This isn't about networking. This is about narcissism. OP, did you post your DS' acceptances on facebook?[/quote]

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