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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here thank you for the replies. I hate to say I am often right but truthfully I am, when it comes to my kids. My son is a great and intelligent young man however he just turned 18 and that's just it, he is just 18. He lacks the wisdom and experience to really make a good decision here, one that could potentially affect and shape his future.

More than anything, it is the intellectual environment I think he will thrive in the most he really gets ignited when around that. So my husband has agreed that they will visit this coming week/weekend and then make an "educated decision" as we are running out of time. I appreciate the feedback.

And to anyone who thought my post in any way was making it seem like I think this is a first world problem, I absolutely do not. I realize this  hardly qualifies for serious hardship but in the moment, yes to me its a big deal..seeing my son make a big mistake that I feel in my heart of hearts, and one I just cannot let go. It has everything to do with whats best for him and very little to do with me, even if you might not agree.[/quote]

It's quite clear that you always think you are right because you have chosen not to answer a single question asked in this thread, such as why prestige--which you claim wasn't important to you when you were younger--has somehow become so important to you now, and why you think attending an Ivy school is so important given that you have parlayed your lowly state-school education into a life so brimming with blessings that you characterize something so ridiculous as a "problem" or something so benign as a "mistake."

It really does sound like your son is more intelligent than you are. Maybe you should listen to him.

First,  you have many of your "observations" totally wrong. Allow me to correct them-

I would have LOVED to attend an ivy, it was not in the cards mostly because of $$$. I was given a full scholarship to the school I attended, and did the best I could with what I had. But dont' think for a second had I had the opportunity to attend an Ivy, I wouldn't have (never pursued it as it was not a viable option).

I am no dummy, the networking possibilities and the sphere of influence that one will automatically be privy to in an ivy league school is unparallelled. You can try to argue with this from any which way,  but I will never believe that any top state school can unequivocally offer the same degree of networking that an Ivy can. Maybe not fair but absolutely true so yes of course I want that for my son. And any parent that is going to be self righteous and say that is not important, frankly I do not believe. Its a dog eat dog world now more than ever, and any opportunity for a young adult to get one step ahead needs to be taken.

While I do not think him attending the school he is leaning towards is necessarily a mistake I do not think it will offer him everything I  know he is ripe for taking advantage of and yes that includes being taught my world class professors, meeting people who will can ultimately help him post college and developing a successful network to help him once he graduates. I can honestly say it has the least to do with the name/prestige, you may choose to believe or not believe that, but everything I have stated here is truthful in my rationale as to why I feel so strongly about this.

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