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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like the perfect wife. Seriously. If you ever dump his ass, let me know. I don't need much of an allowance.[/quote]
OP here, thank you.  Some people here are making me out to be the worst wife, but is it so bad that I want to help my family build wealth?  Most men complain about their wives' spending.  All I can think about is how to help him get ahead at work, save money, and enjoy a stress-free life.[/quote]

Wow are you ever controlling! You also seem obsessed with money. [/quote]

Not the OP, but if you ever lived with not knowing where the money was going to come from to pay for food, then you have no idea.  Maybe she is obsessed with money, but better safe than sorry.  Some of us are smart enough to know that food stamps and welfare or being forced to sell assets to pay for food is not a good way to live.[/quote]

OP here, you know, just reading what you wrote brings tears to my eyes.  I was always worried about money as a child and where we were, there was no welfare.  We never had much and my parents did not shield me from that.  I had never had brand new clothes until I moved to the US in my teens.  Many Americans live on the brink, but have not experienced what life is like when one has truly fallen to the bottom.  Having come from the bottom, I will not go back if I can help it.  I cannot control the future, but I can control my actions.[/quote]
But you can't control the actions of another person. That's the problem. [/quote]

+1. As long as he's working and not spending your money, I don't see the issue. While frugal, I spend a little more money on our house than DH would. Our understanding is that if I make money, I can spend it too. Don't be so stingy.

I don't think you need to give money to inlaws though! I would draw the line there.[/quote]

OP here, my money is his money and his money is my money.  It is all family money and it goes into one pot.[/quote]
In your original post you said "I am resentful of my money being wasted"[/quote]

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