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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Obviously I don't know what it's like to be a parent.
I agree with that 100%.
This experience did give me a good idea of what day to day life would be like.
These are my observations:
1. My house was an absolute mess by the time the children left.
2. I can't have nice furniture and have children.
3. I barely spoke to my husband. We were both too busy wrangling children to communicate about anything other than what was happening at the exact moment.
4. I didn't want to be touched by my husband at the end of the day.
5. I spent A LOT of money.
6. I felt like a zombie amd was exhausted the entire time.

I took 2 personal days in order to do this.  I can't imagine having to work full-time, raise children and keep a house in order.  These things, I feel, are fair representations of things you experience and go through being a parent.  These things happen whether you're caring for your own children or someone else's child.[/quote]

And yet BILLIONS of people manage to have and raise kids successfully! They even manage to have nice houses and maintain their marriages! While working full-time!

If you can stop being such a princess crybaby for a minute, you should think about that. Are you really so fragile that you can't do something that billions of people throughout history have routinely done?[/quote]

But why should she have to? Everything she says is true. It's almost impossible to have nice furniture, your non-kid-centered time with your spouse is minimal, children are expensive. It's just that most of us who have them feel the sacrifice is worth it. If she doesn't, why should she have to have kids?

I agree with most of the posters that caring for others' kids is not representative of having your own. But she said she was 85% sure she didn't want them anyway. So if this was just a little push to confirm her gut feeling, I think that's fine (for her). For people who think that they -do- want kids but are afraid of the work (which really is most people pre-parenthood) I would not recommend this as a method to decide whether you're ready.[/quote]

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