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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whoa, I cannot believe some of the comments on this thread! Daydreaming is unacceptable. Zero screen time is the only way to proceed. It's very likely "something" and likely ADHD.

I don't understand why you have taken away all video game time. Have you seen all the girl programmers and gamers? Maybe that IS her thing.

Agree that if she likes cooking you could follow it up.

Daydreaming as troublesome? That is PRECISELY how some creatives work. I was/am a huge daydreamer as is one of my sons, who also loves video games. I will suggest to him that after a time he needs to write those down (as do I) as that is the only way to move your ideas forward.

I didn't read closely enough to see how she was lacking empathy, but are you sure?

Also be very careful when trying to "diagnose" or "correct" your kid. We were concerned about school fit for our son that I mentioned, and we had him do the WISC. His scores came back horrible and the psychologist tried to convince us that he had ADHD. We were shocked, this was not our son. We spoke to his teacher and a counselor and they, too, were shocked and then went through all the benchmarks and confirmed that he was fine. He had also scored 99% on the school's standardized tests the week prior (after the WISC score stated would indicate he couldn't keep up with classwork). I'm not saying that your daughter doesn't have ADHD, but if you do get any kind of analysis, I would get a second and third opinion.

Finally, I'm going to end how you started....that a lot of it is your problem. Could it just be that this really is about you? I'm not saying you can't nudge your kid, or change how your family spends time. I even know how it can be difficult when your kid is not how like you or how you envisioned. But the title of your post is, "Need help with my attitude..." not "My daughter is addicted to video games and might have ADHD." I think that's telling. GL![/quote]

Very concerning post right there!
PP, your comprehension of special needs is astoundingly misinformed and this will, possibly, affect your son.

People with ADHD can be highly intelligent and perform extremely well because they have developed coping strategies. However, if and when they hit their threshold beyond which they cannot multitask, it all goes south. This often happens in high school when kids are really stressed juggling everything. It happened to me. My IQ is in the gifted range, but I can't multitask, have slow processing speed and procrastinate terribly. Plus the daydreaming! Nobody knew about inattentive ADHD back then, and my poor executive function skills in high school and undergrad precluded me from getting into the career path that I really wanted. I ended up in grad school in a different field, so it wasn't catastrophic, but still... some meds would perhaps have changed my life, literally.

People with ADHD are usually very creative. But they need to develop management skills to control their daydreaming and other habits. No one is saying daydreaming is bad! We are saying that it is a symptom of a brain that might need particular organizational help and impulse control. Right now the label is "ADHD" , but mental health research is in overdrive and it well be called something else in another decade.

Just keep an eye out, PP, for your son's sake.
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