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But the reality is that most people in their 30s already have all the friends and family they need.  I found it very difficult to make friends here because everyone is so crazy busy and just don't have the time or interest.  Our neighborhood is unfriendly and neighbors are not interested in getting to know us.  My husband hasn't been able to make any friends here--not at work or though sports.   It's really hard!  I am hoping to finally find a sense of community once my kids are in school.[/quote]

OP here.  I think this is a huge part of the problem.  Inertia, you know?  The 30's are just not a great time to be meeting new people.

Also, I think I mentioned, but if not, I will again.  I have a sitter.  I don't take care of DC myself during the day, so skipping out to go to the park and library time won't work.  That's another big problem.  I've been looking for groups that meet over lunch time but have not found anything so far.  We can definitely do the park every Saturday morning though.  About bringing snacks for other children, are the parents ok with that?  I'd think they wouldn't be and don't want to unintentionally do something wrong.[/quote]

NP here. I don't necessarily think this is true. We moved to DC with an infant and toddler in our 30's. I felt very discouraged and didn't know anyone. I was lonely for a long time. When you become a new mom, it is a very good time to make new friends.

Your kids start dictating your friends in your 30's. I find that we hang out with families where all parties get along. Husbands needs to get along. Wives get along. Kids get along. If one is off, you don't meet up as often since most of the get togethers are on the weekends.

I made a few friends when my kids were babies. Their kids are girls. I have boys. I still consider them friends but we don't hang out as much because our kids are not very interested in one another and interests are different. We do often hang out with local families we met through school because it is so convenient and our kids play well together. We met up at the park, do bbqs, go to the pool, etc. [/quote]

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