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That's actually not reasonable.  People change, priorities change.  Typically, over 30 years, people have children and get involved in their communities and their priorities and focus widen from a preoccupation with self and appearance to a concern about others and the wider community.  That is typical, not being as interested in fitness and thinness in your 60's than you were in your 20's.  If you have stayed as self-focused that is interesting but it is far, fr from the norm.  As for fatness being 100% preventable, it is typically only preventable in women if a person has a unique metabolism or I'd they become MORE interested in maintaining thinness over time.  It has to be more of a focus not less, because the aging process in healthy women typically adds more adipose tissue.  This is self-protective and healthy, as the survival rate for illnesses late on life such as cancers is much higher for slightly overweight people.

I'm trying to be reasonable, though, and it's probably just a waste of time.  I sense that no argument would break you of your belief that fatness is a justification for OP's spouse's behavior since you think it is justification for breaking vows.[/quote]

It is not a "preoccupation with self and appearance" to just eat a balanced number of calories to remain at an attractive weight.
How much "work" is it to order the small instead of the large?
How much effort to eat half the bowl and throw the rest away?
It is absolutely reasonable that even in a long term marriage both partners should prioritize looking attractive regardless of age.
Fatness is a choice for either women or men. Stop making excuses. Eat less and Do more = Lose weight. Simple and 100% effective.
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Most women put on 10 to 20 pounds after menopause even if they are eating the same.

Dieting is a whole different ball game then. Stop trying to justify you shallow outlook. 30 or 40 pronouns should not be a deal breaker in any long term relationship.[/quote]

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