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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Implicit in monogamy is some responsibility to meet your spouse's reasonable sexual needs under ordinary circumstances. [/quote]

Even if those needs don't match up with your own?  I am a DW whose husband always makes sure his needs are met.  His response to my LD?  Great! Now he doesn't even both to try to make me feel good.  [/quote]

Exactly.  The fact is, since many women are not getting sexually satisfied through intercourse, the sexual "implicit contract" has already been violated.  If we get angry at wives for not having sex with their husbands we need to get angry with husbands for not getting their wives off. [/quote]

I would say that the DW in such a situation has two obligations.  One, honesty.  If she knows why she is not interested or what would make her more interested, she ought to say so. There could be a lot of reasons, many of which could be the DH's own fault, but obviously those can't really be corrected if he doesn't know about them.  Two, to make real efforts to try to improve things.  That might be experimenting, that might be counseling, it might be a lot of things.

What I think often happens in situations where this becomes a giant problem is that the only real answer the DW would have is either "be someone else" or "nothing, I am just over sex entirely" and doesn't want to say that because it would be destabilizing to the marriage.  I sympathize with the difficulty of such a situation, but don't think it is fair to conceal those things or to demand celibacy from one's spouse.  [/quote]

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