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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - From my experience, you need to take life one day at a time at this point.  You have no idea how long MIL will live, or if your DH would refuse to do family vacations a year or two down the road.  This must be very difficult on you and your young family.  Caring for a sick parent is never easy.  Never.  
Go with the flow now.  Let DH take your son and you sit this one out, as you said.  As things come up, discuss them.  At some point, when you aren’t as resentful, have a discussion about family vacations with DH.  But know, that everything can change in a flash.  That is the way life is.  [/quote]

This sounds like do as your DH asks, let him take advantage of you and just put up and shut up until she dies.[/quote]

Not at all.  I am old enough and have been married long enough (34 years) to know that a good marriage is about give and take.  Partners compromise.  Sometimes, you do what needs to be done, not because you are “giving in” but because it is what is best for all. 
The OP said herself that he DH has been supportive in the past when she does things with the children (I believe she was speaking about the older child in particular).  Remember, that we are hearing one side of the story here.  Anyone that thinks her DH is unreasonable or that she is being a “slave” is being very judgmental - you simply do not know the whole story.  
I cared for sick parents before they passed away.  My DH and I actually shared this responsibility, but I was the one who did most of the work.  I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  It was hard, physically and emotionally, but it was something I was better at than DH.  He takes on other responsibilities that HE is better at.  
It is not about one spouse taking advantage of the other.  It is about communication and compromise.  [i]THAT[/i] is what makes a strong marriage.  [/quote]

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