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[quote=Anonymous]Don't do it.
I was in your exact situation 7 years ago. My BF got a great job in DC; I was living in San Diego. We'd been dating for 3 ish years. I was 31.
He asked me to move with him and I said I wouldn't leave my friends and family for a boyfriend - I would visit him and try to navigate some kind of long distance relationship. He busted out a ring about 2 months later and I did yes. I wasn't holding out for a ring. I earnestly meant I would try to maintain a LD relationship but I would not leave my home and family.
FF to now +1 kid.
As a SD native, I fucking hate DC. The weather is miserable, the job market is tight (although I scored an excellent  job with the govt) houses are stupidly over-priced, school districts suck and entertainment is absurdly expensive. 
Then there are the people. Stick around Dcum and read the housing and school forums. People here are hyper competitive and elitist. Many will cry - "not all, just some!" My observation is that it's most.
Stay where you are - maybe his job won't work out, maybe he'll hate it, maybe he'll hate dc, maybe he'll miss sd. It will be so much easier for him to come back if you don't also have to quit your job and find a new one!
If we had it to do over again, we'd never have come here. Sure, we have plenty of friends, live in a nice neighborhood, even have good commutes and we do try to make the most of it but this will never be home for a SoCal native. And there is just no replacement for having family nearby when/if you have children.[/quote]

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