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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are nonJews commenting on what is appropriate?  It is very important to treat a bar or bat mitzvah for what it is, a transition into full responsibility for carrying out all the mitzvot  required of us.   A bar or bat mitzvah shows Torah learning and shared his or her insights.  You don't show appreciation for that with an iTunes card. The party is NOT a birthday party and in no way should resemble such.  It is a major life cycle event of utmost importance.   No child studies and learns for a birthday party  No child has to prepare a dvar torah for a birthday party.  [b]A birthday gift is insulting[/b].  Yes, bonds and shekel savings are great gifts.  Investing in their adulthood or Judaic gifts or gifts that reflect their tie to Israel ...

[b]For those in communities where they have one every weekend, I would suggest a community pool.  Our grade representative collects $100 from each parent in 6th grade and again in 7th (6th for the girls age 12 & 7th for the boys age 13).  This way, we don't have constant obligations and the child receives one nice gift from her school friends. [/quote][/b]

I am astonished at the notion that a gift, any gift, but especially one given from the heart and with the best of intentions could be viewed as "insulting."[/quote]

That is very odd. Is every single kid invited to every single party? i think not. Furthermore, people give what they want to give, if they want to give, it is a gift from the heart and nothing more. You  make this sound like a business transaction....very strange approach.[/quote]

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