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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP:  I have no idea.  He goes to the chamber of commerce and volunteers, he has worked on political campaigns for no compensation.  he doesn't cook.  Household chores are minimal.  We have a friend who is doing a start up and he works unpaid for him, when he feels like it.  [/quote]

I'm a SAHM and believe me, once you've been out of the workforce for a while the prospect of going back can be daunting.  What do you even a apply for?  This is a consequence of the decision (that you both made and both benefited from) to have a parent at home with the kids.

It's good that your husband has kept up some contacts through his volunteering with the chamber of commerce and political campaigns.  Maybe those contacts can help him to get his foot in the door somewhere.  It is bad that your husband is not doing much (if anything) to lighten your load - he isn't cooking, he isn't cleaning so that's all waiting for you when you walk through the door.  That isn't fair.
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OP:  no, actually, he kind of unilaterally made the decision on his own by quitting, and not becoming re-employed, but then we both agreed our life was better, our kids lives were better with a stay at home parent.  Maybe those years ago I could have quit and left him holding the bag, and now it would have been me retired.  It's not as clean as all that.[/quote]

Looking back, can you see the reasons why he suddenly quit his job to stay at home with the kids?  What was the final straw for him?  It seems like a pretty huge decision for one spouse to make alone without any input from the other spouse.  I suppose it's good that the decision did work out for the betterment of your family.  Now it's a matter of pulling together to make it work now.[/quote]

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