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[quote=Anonymous][quote]This.

It is really really hard for SAHDs to return to work b/c it is so rare and unusual that employers assume it is cover for other problem (mental health, personal issues, etc). And their skills are very stale and he hasn't any recent experience.

And if your kids are leaving HS, your DH is probably 50ish? Men who have been working for 30 years who are unemployed at 50 often have very hard time finding a job; your DH really has no chance. He should hang a shingle and do some kind of contract project work (maybe start off with Amazon Mechanical Turk or eLance or something to build some kind of portfolio).

I suspect your DH sees the writing on the wall: he is unemployable in current labor market. But doesn't want to try to convince you so is "looking"

OP: I see your point. But he has managed many political campaigns, and consults regularly for free for our friends start up. I think he probably couldn't go traditional, but I envision start up or not for profit as options. He's not that stale and he's very very very bright.[/quote]

I think it's great that he manages political campaigns and consults.  It's great that he's engaged--it's good for his mental health.  However that doesn't change that if he has been out of the workforce for a long time and getting a job that actually pays is a whole different story from volunteer work.

For what it's worth, my mother has a few SAH friends who were able to eventually get paying jobs from volunteer positions over a long period of time.  One in particular volunteered for a nonprofit and they ended up hiring her for full time work. This is unusual, but not impossible.[/quote]

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