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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of good advice here. Let's summarize:

1. Cut off the cable and internet NOW. 
2. Contact your landlord to set up an appointment to see what you can do. 
3. Dump your therapist. 
4. If you have any joint accounts or credit cards, empty and cancel them. NOW.
5. If landlord cannot work it out, break the lease. Stop worrying about your credit. You are young and will get it back. What's most important is that you get out. 
6. Stop buying groceries for him. [/quote]

+1 to all of this. You're making it too complicated, OP.  You see all the problems really clearly, but you're trying to solve the mystery of Dude, and that is a losing game. At the end of the day, which is right now, it doesn't matter what his issues are why he's acting this way now but didn't before. It. Doesn't. Matter. What matters is that he's drained your bank account, abused your trust, and exploited your generous and well-meant offer of temporary support. He shares scary, violent dreams with you with the obvious result of intimidating and frightening you. He's lazy and dirty and defensive. Whether or what sort of issues he has that underlie all this disgusting behavior are beside the point. You can't fix him so don't even try. Invite some friends over to pack your stuff (keeping a couple in the apt. at all times to make sure he doesn't take any of your things if he's always home) and get out stat.[/quote]

Guys, I agree she needs to get out of this relationship. But she is still on the hook for the entire rent amount because her name is on the lease. She can't just ditch the lease unless the landlord lets her out in writing.

Can you get HIM to move out and get a roommate to replace him?[/quote]

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