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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For me two weeks is a long time to leave my toddler and infant with my husband. Could you cut it down to one week?
Does she have any children?[/quote]

Two weeks to be with your sister, who has a brain tumor? Are you kidding me?  What is wrong with your husband?

OP, do NOT ask her to make the trip shorter due to your child care issues.  I didn't get the sense this bothered you from a mom standpoint, but just in case....[/quote]

NP.  Um, sorry but if making it a tad shorter means OP can actually go and have a stress-free time, that's for the best.  I understand sis is sick, but sadly the world does not stop because of it.  You have no idea what obligations OP's DH has or her kids' needs.  If two weeks is not feasible, it's not.[/quote]

Seriously, a husband who cannot handle his own toddler and infant for two weeks, for whatever reason let alone these circumstances, isn't worth much.  Why do we cut men slack like this?  It's not rocket science to take care of two kids.

If it seems difficult for him, arrange for a family member, friend or babysitter to help him out. Explain the situation to any friend or neighbor and I'm sure they would be willing to help out.

I think the only reason not to do this is if the cost means that you will be in danger of not being able to pay rent/mortgage and key bills.

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To be fair, I don't think I could handle my infant and toddler for 2 weeks by myself either. So maybe it's not a gender issue but more that we're incompetent parents   :( [/quote]

Little kids are HARD!  Relentlessly needy, emotionally unpredictable, and totally dependent on you.  You don't have to be incompetent to find the prospect of single parenting two of them for two weeks daunting, if not a bad idea if at all avoidable.[/quote]

Unbelievable. Are you an only child? Or do you have siblings with whom you are not close? Would you seriously not allow your spouse to spend two weeks with his dying sibling because you would be too stressed out to care for your kids by yourself? Pathetic. Seriously, pathetic.[/quote]

Maybe, horror of horrors, PP is an only child or maybe she is in the - I don't think rare - situation of not being close with her siblings.  All families are not the same.  I have a co-worker who took a month off from work when her grandfather died.  Good for her, because she was close to home.  When my grandmother died, I didn't even go to the funeral because I barely knew her, there was major family drama involved, and she was just not a nice woman.  Call me names if you want.  Point is, every situation is different.  None of this matters to OP, but ppl in similar situations shouldn't feel bad if they aren't doing exactly what she's doing.[/quote]

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