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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes my mom and sister have a hard time understanding how family events affect me differently cost wise. For example, they rented a beach house for this summer which is driving distance for everyone in the family but us. We would require cross country flights and a car rental which make it very expensive, even if we don't have to pay for the house rental. My sister would never be able to afford to fly her family across the country for that but she doesn't understand if I say the flights are too expensive.
I've learned (and am still learning) to let it go. They don't get to decide what works for me and my family. Sometimes I think their plans don't make sense or annoy me but I don't mention it because it's not my decision to make.
I would do what works for you and your immediate family. Your mother and sister can deal with it how they choose.[/quote]

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They don't understand how $2500 is a lot of money for us to spend on a vacation, for example, and it better be a great, well planned event that will be a fabulous time for us to justify spending the money and using vacation time. 
I have been guilted up and down for not spending 3k alone on plane tickets (2 layovers) to a remoter part of California, plus 2 hour car ride, involving sleeping on blow up mattress and dragging gear for a 1 and 3 year old for the past year. 
We just don't choose to spend 3k on that event. Period.
OP, your sister and mother are obviously doing a number on you, I can see you feeling badly and trying to justify yourself on here to a bunch of strangers. Please be kind to yourself and do what's right for you[/quote]

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