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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FWIW, I've never had the "exclusivity talk" with anyone. I suppose our marriage vows covered that. Or maybe I should talk to my husband tonight. [/quote]

You know, I often wonder about the exclusive talk myself.  I am now early 40s and dating and from my personal experience you need to have it to solidify both people are on the same page.  [/quote]

I've only been in two long-term relationships. One lasted 8 years, and the other is my current husband. In both cases, I never wondered whether we were exclusive past the first handful of dates (before which I didn't care). If either had had sex with someone else (or had drunkenly propositioned someone else), I would have considered myself cheated on regardless of whether I was allowed to officially call him out on it. In every other relationship I've had, I probably didn't know whether we were exclusive, but I wasn't about to have "the talk" because the relationships sucked and I didn't want to hem myself in either.

So, while I don't think it's wrong to have the talk at all, I've never been in a position where I was truly wondering "are we, or aren't we?" Based on everything OP said, I think she has every reason to walk and not feel bad about it. [/quote]

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