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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes you can believe in that sentiment and still think it is crazy not to attend the wedding. As a pp so nicely said, it's not about an attendance sheet, it's about sharing in your joys and sorrows with those closest to you. I would be disappointed if my nephew were not at my wedding, and as the sister it would be very important to me that my family and I be at my sister's wedding. Not because ai want to check some imaginary box, but because I'd want to share in her joy![/quote]

But in this scenario, your son doesn't want to go to the wedding at all.  And if you make him go, he will be angry and disappointed.  It won't be a joyous family scene at all. [/quote]

Then you explain to him that if he wants his family to reciprocate and be there to celebrate his graduation, or confirmation, or 16th birthday or what ever, that this is how your family works.

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It is incredibly unfair to put it back on him. His sister isn't in this predicament because their mom thought to check her schedule and made sure the date fit. She couldn't be bothered or somehow forgot to do it for him and he should be the one making a choice and suffering the consequences? That's a lot of guilt to put on a 14-year-old boy who had no control over the situation. He's already facing a terribly hard choice through no fault of him own, I think that's more than enough.[/quote]

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