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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope you don't have kids.

Blindsiding someone (anyone) with divorce papers is never wise. Forget the moral implications. I'm talking about strategy. Now you've pissed off the guy. He will likely turn what could have been a relatively simple process into a bloody war. Have fun fighting over every little thing for the next year or so. And have fun paying your lawyer!

Ps - if your lawyer advised this approach, then you are screwed...you have a craptastic lawyer.

Signed,

Lawyer[/quote]

Ugh, what are you talking about.  Are you a family law lawyer?

Because I work in family law and this is EXACTLY what we advise our clients to do.  And we are an excellent firm.

If you can surprise someone with a divorce, it's the best thing because all the assets get frozen, and they wont be able to move money around.

Which is why so many famous and uber-rich people use this strategy and "blindside" their partner.

Are you seriously a lawyer?  Or did you just say that to scare OP?  If you are, you may want to choose a different field.  [/quote]

+1.  Getting all your ducks in a row before saying "I want a divorce" or serving papers is the best move if you have decided on divorce.  And, frankly, women shouldn't be making such important decisions about divorce and how to handle it on the basis of "it might make him upset and then he won't be nice to me."  That is not a realistic way to plan for the future with someone who has already shown they are more than willing to do what it takes to try to diminish you. [/quote]

+1000 Yes, PP is correct. Everyone, especially women, should prepare for a divorce. Collect all the financial information, talk to attorneys, etc. etc.

Good luck to you, OP. DCUM is a very crazy place with posts by tons of weirdos and angry people. Just lean on your real-life support network and reach out to other divorced women in DC. Best of luck.

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Yep.  Didn't you know?  If women were just NICE to men, they would be so nice back. I'm sure OP's DH would have bent over backwards in his desire to give her everything he could, all the money, all the custody, etc etc etc.  Because that's how the world works.

Some people are so naive, it's unbelievable.  I highly doubt anyone who advised OP to do this has any legal experience- because it would have been the dumbest thing in the world to tip her husband off and give him any time to move around assets.

THIS is why there is a field for family law lawyers. Because people get unbelievable vicious in divorces- almost without exception.  I can count on one hand the number of divorces I have seen where both parties ended up being really nice to each other the whole time.  So unless OP is confident of that, it would be inane to go in with that attitude, and a direct path to screwing herself and her kids over by playing softball when hardball is required. [/quote]

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