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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sick and tired about hearing about the good old days when kids supposedly didn't have these disorders. Kids absolutely had these disorders, they just weren't treated for them. I am related to some of those kids, now adults, whose lives have been completely stunted by issues that today would be diagnosed and treated. They've had really, really challenging lives. There is no way in hell I would allow my child to suffer like that.

if you think back to when you were a kid I'll bet you can remember some of these kids. They seemed stupid or weird. You didn't hang out with them. They ended up on a different track. Where are they now? Who knows, but not where you want your own child to be.

Seriously, I think some of you have such ignorant blinders on that you don;t even think through what you post.[/quote]

Ditto this.  My husband had ADD inattentive.  You all who wax and wane about the "good old days" have zero idea how hard it was for kids like him.  He is brilliant and yet he dropped out of high school because he had zero support.  Thankfully, as an adult, he was finally diagnosed. He got his HS degree, went to UVA and has an amazing career.  To be clear, your little bubble or view of the world is not actually indicative of reality.

OP, my son is like your son.  Part of it is the way he is and part of it in the fact that, like his father, he has ADD (inattentive type).  He has therapy to help him manage it and this year (8th grade) he did start taking medication.  In other words, he is getting the support and resources my husband did not.  I do not medicate him.  It was his choice and it continues to be his choice.  However, he will tell anyone who asks that it has changed his life.  School went from hard to easy in a week.

Personally I think that part of you needs to expect that your son may be a bit lazy and a bit of an introvert.  You can't change that part of him.  He may also have inattentive ADD (or have some other issue). You can help with that part.  You don't necessarily needs meds, but don't knock them either.  Your job as a parent is to give your child the skills nad coping mechanisms to be a capable and empathic adult.    [/quote]

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