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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry.  But I think you're fudging things a bit. You are not "a few pounds" over your weight. 40 pounds is a LOT of weight.  And at 150 pounds, you were not thin.  I know that because I'm 5'10'', and 150 is my upper range weight.  I'm not fat per se at 150 pounds, but not thin either, and if I kept up my gym routine, I'd never get beyond 145.  What I'm saying is that you have a weight problem.  You really do.  Whether this is the reason your DH is turned off or not, we'll never know, but your weight is an issue.  It's up to you whether to take care of that or not, but your weight is not normal.[/quote]

I am not OP, but people have different body types.  I am 5'11 and would have to lose a LOT of muscle (on purpose, which would be stupid) to get down to 150.  I put on muscle easily.

Weight is meaningless without a body fat percentage.  I posted above - at 205, I was 26% body fat. My ideal would be no lower than 190.  I'd have to stop exercising entirely and severely limit calories to drop enough muscle to get down to 150.   Anyone who is educated on exercise and body composition knows that you can't really tell if someone is "overweight" based on a number on the scale.

If at 5'10 you are 150 and not "thin" then you probably could do some work to improve your fitness and add some muscle.  I wouldn't trade my body for yours, ever, even though given my numbers, you'd probably describe me as obese.[/quote]

Since I know my body and you don't, it's meaningless for you to prescribe or diagnose my fitness level.  But since you brought this up, here are the numbers.

I'm 5'10''.  When I was at the gym four times a week kickboxing, stepping and lifting weight PLUS on the ice for six hours a week, I was 135 pounds and you could crack walnuts on my inner thighs. I had fabulous muscle tone all over.  That schedule, though, wasn't realistic or sustainable for me beyond the two years I had it.  With that, my ass and hips were still not model material since that's not the way I am built, and I'll always be slim on top and heavier on the bottom. Models my height are 115, 120 pounds. That's not achievable for me so I don't bother myself with it.

When I cut out the ice time, I settled at 140-145 pounds for the next six years. That is my target weight that takes some work to maintain because I eat out regularly and don't deny myself.   And because I gain weight easily.  At that weight, I am size six on bottom and potentially a four on top.  That is healthy and fit but not in any way slim or thin. It's not a 2. It's not a double zero.  It's a healthy, average, very average 4 to 6.

Post-baby 2, I couldn't work out as much as I could, or ever, and my weight rocketed to 152.  At that point, I feel disgusted with myself.  Currently pregnant with 2 and can't wait to shed it. Mind you, I know my body will change and I will never again be 135, or even potentially 140.  But I know that at 190, I would be a buffalo.

So to an extent, you are right. You cannot tell whether someone is overweight or not based on numbers on a scale. But only up to a point.  There is no way anyone who is 5'10'' be 300 pounds and NOT overweight.  The not being able to tell thing works in a range of 10, 15, maybe 20 pounds. But not 40 pounds. Sorry.

And yes, I don't want your body.  At 190 pounds, I'd want to take a knife and start slicing flesh off myself.  The last thing I'd tell myself would be that this is normal, and hell, DH should desire me...just because he ought to!  If that's your normal and you're happy, I'm happy for you.  To me, that would be a freaking code triple red. [/quote]

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