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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]so the last few posters are stating that there friends and family in their 50s have an easy time dating and/or remarrying. cool. i agree, it's probably easier in the states than most places abroad. That said, as an AA woman it always seems harder. not sure why.  I, however, can't afford regular sitters so i can't get out to meet these men very often.

Overseas, i will have money and time to date but i am not sure there will be many options.[/quote]

I posted about my mom who is 51, divorced and dating. We're AA women. I have an aunt who says what you're saying, but she also has a chip on her shoulder that I believe turns men off. She always says that she is the prize. It's always said that single mothers have it so hard. Yet, I meet men as often as my single, childless friends. My other single mom friends are a mix of remarried, engaged, and/or longterm committed women. To men that other women find desirable. You don't have to be the hottest woman in the room either (though you should be well groomed and attractive). The average guy doesn't care about our resumes, but moreso about how a woman makes him feel. They're simple really and easy to read. An asshole is an asshole...doesn't matter if you're AA or not.

I'm just going to throw this out there since race is on the table. I have been frustrated recently, because I'm trying to hook up a nice AA young man (24), well educated, highly intelligent, genuine, good manners, etc with someone, handsome, TALL, yet I keep hearing that he lacks swag. I was complaining about this to my aunt mentioned about and she said "well, swagger is important". No, its NOT. Swag is great for a fling, but it doesn't have anything to do with substance. I really hope that you're not still holding out for someone with a certain look or attitude at 50+.

By the way, your circumstances tell me that you're an ideal candidate for online dating. Take some really nice pics and go for it. Have fun at it and don't overthink it. You could meet someone who ends up being a good friend or even has a single friend for you, if there isn't chemistry. Be willing to date out of your comfort zone (whatever that is). There's someone out here for you.[/quote]

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