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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I sort of know the type of person your mom is because she sounds like my mom.  I think you are a bit insensitive. Care taking is very hard work, and she sounds burnt out, stressed out, and depressed. Of course she would never put her husband in a nursing home because she loves him too much to do that.  She needs more help and is already exhausted and angry that no one thinks to take out the garbage (probably among other things that needed to be done).  Why should she have to do everything (and why can't anyone else recognize what needs to be done) when she is old and already burnt out from care taking? She probably has a hard time asking for help in a nice way because of her exhaustion and age. Stay home if you are not willing to help out your aging parents.  Visitors create more work and she is already overloaded. Many hands make little work, but it sounds like she was left with the cleanup. Plus you keep acting like she needs the right medication. Maybe she needs more help and empathy and a break. Your parents are not going to live forever.  Are you going to feel good about your attitude when they are gone? You sound self absorbed (and I hate to say it, but bratty) and I'm getting irritated just thinking of this situation.  You're complaining you didn't have a nicer holiday. If anyone has a right to complain, it's your mother for everything she has been through and I feel sorry for her that she doesn't have more understanding children. No wonder she is depressed.[/quote]

We handle difficult situations in the best way that we know how.  That does not mean that every outsider (even our own kids) would do it the same way.  And that does not mean that every outsider (even our kids) have the time, energy or ability to support our choices in the most helpful way.

Op has a lot on her plate right now with a very sick dad, a depressed/stressed mom and her own children who need their mom.  It's tough to be everything to everyone.  In fact, you can't be everything to everyone.  Op doesn't need this heap of guilt right now.  [/quote]

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