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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She may have problems with food herself, and if that's the case, it will be difficult for her to see what is wrong with her comments. Sometimes people don't even realize that they have disordered attitudes toward food and eating, even when it is pointed out to them.
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The eating disorders that we have in the US are with the 30% who are OBESE.

The reason the majority are obese is because they eat without any discipline. This is the real issue ....... not the MIL who may or may not have skewed views about eating and diets.

Stop shifting the blame and accept responsibility for why we have a problem with obesity in this country.[/quote]

[b]Is it your contention that name-calling and humiliation and fat-shaming are appropriate ways to correct this? Serious question.[/b][/quote]

Serious answer: No that is not my contention. However, at the same time, attributing any sort of comment regarding someone putting on weight or wanting to restrict a diet is not "fat-shaming" but common sense. The approach of soft-pedaling the issue just does not work and you can just look around you to see the effect of that approach. People - most people - put on weight because they eat too much. They gorge on food like there is no tomorrow and don't exercise. Telling a kid that he/she has eaten enough or that he/she should be more active is not fat-shaming - nor is telling a kid that certain types of food are nothing but empty calories.

One can always make an exception and eat something that is junk but when one does it all the time and one eats endless amounts of junk, it is not wrong to point it out.

The reason that cigarette smoking is less of an issue today than it was is because we literally made it not only uncomfortable for people to smoke but made it cost prohibitive. If we took the approach that blunt warnings and making it uncomfortable to smoke was the equivalent of "cigarette shaming" we'd not have made the headway that we did. Education played a role for sure but most people who are obese know it is not good for them in terms of their health, their self esteem, their social interactions, etc but they still over-eat.

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