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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand what you want.  You want to spend Christmas with your family in Colorado, and still have some “normal” Christmas traditions (tree, presents, etc.).  It’s not hard for me to understand.
 
In some ways, I’m in the same boat. I’m the youngest, and I waited until my late 30s to have kids. My family is also in Colorado, and we had big Christmases – not expensive, but loud and fun. One my side of the family, all my nieces and nephews are older and completely disinterested in hanging out with my 5 and 7 year olds. Which I can understand – most 20 year olds want to be hanging out with friends.   It’s just sad to me that my kids don’t get the cousin experience. But honestly, they don’t know any different so they don’t perceive that they are “missing” anything. On my husband’s side, he has one brother whose children are closer in age – 14 and 11. They live about 2 hours away. But his brother and his wife are going through some marital issues and have not been pleasant to be around for a while. 
 
I understand wanting your kids to have the same experiences.  But they won’t.  And their experiences are not better or worse – just different.  As others have put it, the Christmas you make for them will be their warm and fuzzy memories.
 
You could always rent a hotel room (like a large executive suite), or get a vacation rental condo or townhome and do the whole tree and gifts thing there. Even invite the brothers and sisters and cousins.  Your parents wouldn’t don’t have to host it. And I’m sure at least some of your family would join in.
 
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