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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If so, how do you deal with that person?  My sister was recently diagnosed and it makes so much sense.  I know that she is mentally ill but her behavior leaves me frustrated and feeling that attempts to engage in a relationship with her will always be one-sided and pointless.  It has been like this for nearly 20 years.

Case in point:

She is going through a tough time right now, and I have been supportive both emotionally and financially.  (Understand that, knowing her, I expect neither gratitude nor reciprocity.)  Last night I called her to check in and see how she is doing.  This is how the conversation went down:

Her:  Hello?
Me:  Hi.
Her:  (Cuts me off.)  Who is your cell phone provider?
Me:  Ummm...AT&T?  Why?
Her:  I don't have a lot of minutes left this month.
Me:  Okay.  I think I have your home phone in my phone.  Are you at home right now?  
Her:  No.
Me:  Oh, where are you?  (Germane question due to her current situation.)
Her:  Why does it matter?  What do you want?  
Me:  (Pause to gather myself.)  I was just calling to see how you've been, but I can see this isn't a good time to talk.  I can call you later.
Her:  It's a perfectly good time to talk, I just don't have time to talk about where I am and what I'm doing.  So get to the point.
Me:  I think we should talk later.  Have a good night.
Her:  Fine, bye.

Two minutes later I get a text "I am happy to talk now but I don't want to waste minutes explaining that I don't have minutes.  LOL"
Then, 45 minutes later, this text:  Call me at home later XXX-XXX-XXXX.

Then, an hour later, she calls me from home.  I ignore her call because really, I just can't engage in another of these crazy conversations where, on the basis of absolutely nothing, she is hostile and snippy.  She is utterly incapable of engaging in a normal conversation and never communicates unless she wants/needs something.  She has no concern about anyone else (or at least, can't express concern about anyone else sincerely).  I am alternatively a role model she places on a pedastal or a complete bitch who doesn't care about her and has never "been there" enough.  No matter what I do, I can't win.  I care about my sister and I want to help, but I don't have time in my life to engage in the drama, nor the patience to endure all of her slings and arrows.

So what can I do?  Cut her off?  Find a way to let it all roll off my back?  Pointing out her behavior is useless - I've tried, and she is defensive and will always insist that her reaction is, in her mind, your fault.  There is no way that I can fix her, so I feel like my options are limited.  Thoughts?  Experience?[/quote]

OP You cannot relate to someone who is poor? She is running out of minutes on her plan? You need to be a B**th about this why?[/quote]

I think this is backwards.  OP called her sister, and her sister was abrupt to the point of being rude.  You can be poor and still be courteous.   [/quote]

And Op's sister tried to explain why she was rude and she did call Op back but Op wasn't answering the phone, blah, blah. blah.  So what can Op's sister do to make this right?  I'm guessing that Op's sister has pretty much forgotten about this whole weird conversation by now.  [/quote]

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