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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If so, how do you deal with that person?  My sister was recently diagnosed and it makes so much sense.  I know that she is mentally ill but her behavior leaves me frustrated and feeling that attempts to engage in a relationship with her will always be one-sided and pointless.  It has been like this for nearly 20 years.

Case in point:

She is going through a tough time right now, and I have been supportive both emotionally and financially.  (Understand that, knowing her, I expect neither gratitude nor reciprocity.)  Last night I called her to check in and see how she is doing.  This is how the conversation went down:

Her:  Hello?
Me:  Hi.
Her:  (Cuts me off.)  Who is your cell phone provider?
Me:  Ummm...AT&T?  Why?
Her:  I don't have a lot of minutes left this month.
Me:  Okay.  I think I have your home phone in my phone.  Are you at home right now?  
Her:  No.
Me:  Oh, where are you?  (Germane question due to her current situation.)
Her:  Why does it matter?  What do you want?  
Me:  (Pause to gather myself.)  I was just calling to see how you've been, but I can see this isn't a good time to talk.  I can call you later.
Her:  It's a perfectly good time to talk, I just don't have time to talk about where I am and what I'm doing.  So get to the point.
Me:  I think we should talk later.  Have a good night.
Her:  Fine, bye.

Two minutes later I get a text "I am happy to talk now but I don't want to waste minutes explaining that I don't have minutes.  LOL"
Then, 45 minutes later, this text:  Call me at home later XXX-XXX-XXXX.

Then, an hour later, she calls me from home.  I ignore her call because really, I just can't engage in another of these crazy conversations where, on the basis of absolutely nothing, she is hostile and snippy.  She is utterly incapable of engaging in a normal conversation and never communicates unless she wants/needs something.  She has no concern about anyone else (or at least, can't express concern about anyone else sincerely).  I am alternatively a role model she places on a pedastal or a complete bitch who doesn't care about her and has never "been there" enough.  No matter what I do, I can't win.  I care about my sister and I want to help, but I don't have time in my life to engage in the drama, nor the patience to endure all of her slings and arrows.

So what can I do?  Cut her off?  Find a way to let it all roll off my back?  Pointing out her behavior is useless - I've tried, and she is defensive and will always insist that her reaction is, in her mind, your fault.  There is no way that I can fix her, so I feel like my options are limited.  Thoughts?  Experience?[/quote]

OP You cannot relate to someone who is poor? She is running out of minutes on her plan? You need to be a B**th about this why?[/quote]

I think this is backwards.  OP called her sister, and her sister was abrupt to the point of being rude.  You can be poor and still be courteous.   [/quote]

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