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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You set boundaries with her, which it sounds like you're already doing. If you're not in the mood to talk to her, don't answer the phone. If she starts behaving unpleasantly when  you're on the phone, you get off.

Then, you try to get to a place where you fully accept that none of this has anything to do with you, that it's the result of her own illness. A few sessions with a counselor of your own might be really helpful for sorting through your feelings on this and finding some peace.[/quote]

Thanks.  Trust me, I know it doesn't have anything to do with me.  I am one of the few people in my family who have invested in therapy and I think I have a very healthy sense of boundaries now as a result.  I have cut her off for long periods of time in the past because her irrational abuse is not my burden to bear and I will not allow myself to be treated that way.  I do not raise my voice to her.  I will not engage in the fight.  I know that to some extent she cannot help being the way she is, but on the other hand I find that to be a cop out.  I am not and will not be an enabler.  I guess where I'm struggling is the line between realizing that I cannot change her and letting it be known that, if she wants to continue to have a relationship with me, that I will not make excuses for nor will I tolerate her behavior.

I guess it may just be the case that this process of setting boundaries and the ups and downs of limiting contact at times will just always be the way it will be.  Which honestly is just exhausting to think about.  [/quote]

Sounds like it would be best for HER if you stayed away. You seem so angry. Are you sure you don't have the diagnosis mixed up? Like its you with BPD?[/quote]

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