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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes.  You should have thought about this before you went down this path.  It is surprising that you did not.[/quote]

I don;t think it is that surprising. I think most people have a general idea of what life with kids is going to be like but until you do it, you really don't have a concept of the day to day of family life. I certainly know that I am learning things as LOs get older and things tend to change with each phase. Its hard to predict. Sure if someone works 60-70 hour weeks, of course you can predict that they won't have much family time, but in less extreme cases, I think its easy to not really be sure what time changes are needed.[/quote]

+1M[/quote]

Sure circumstances change, but OP's child is 2.  Surely three years ago, she knew that DH wanted to be a BigLaw partner or already was one.  The hours and lifestyle are no secret and her dh has probably been working that way for some time.  Saying she doesn't want to be the default parent is just strange, it was never reasonable to expect him to be.  Perhaps it wasn't reasonable for him to assume she would be and they should have remained childless.  But she is the one posing the question.  Unless her dh is willing to leave Biglaw, she is going to have to be the default or leave the marriage (in which case, she's still the default parent).[/quote]

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