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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I drop my child off because I've got 3 other children and don't want to be hauling them all into your house/party. But I wouldn't drop off if my child couldn't handle it. She can use the bathroom by herself, will follow instructions, stay with the group, etc. So saying snacks or whatever will be provided for parents would not entice me to stay.[/quote]

Yes, this.   If all you do is mention snacks for parents, I would just assume that meant parents are "welcome to stay" but not "required" or even "requested."

I too, have 4 kids...and if my husband has a work or other obligation that day, I would not be able to stay with my child at your child's party, unless you also wanted to host ALL of my kids...and well, that has already been hotly debated on DCUM.   Anyway, you may find that for many in your child's guest list, they have the same situation and they would either have to 1) drop off 2)bring a few siblings, or 3)just decline the invite.[/quote]

I think you have lost perspective.  The party isn't free child care. The parents need to have time to focus on the their child and run the party.  Your child at 4, still needs help at a stranger's house at a party where almost every other kid has a parent.  
Yes, you have 4 kids and your youngest is one of them. You as the parent need to make the time for your 4th child and that means that sometimes you need to arrange the schedule so that your older ones go somewhere via carpool or maybe don't go.

It's easy to say to that it doesn't matter because it's only a 4 yr old bday party but the attitude is pervasive and soon it will be it doesn't matter because it's just the 2nd grade recital or the 8th grade play.
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As another parent of 4 kids I find this statement interresting.  We have chosen to not attend every party that each of our 4 kids is invited to so that we are not "those parents" that just drop kids off.  And do you know what has happend for 8 out of 10 parties we have turned down...the hosts have said we should drop off the kid for the party!!  When we RSVP we do not say why we can not atten we do something along the lines of "Larla won't be able to attend the party we hope Sally has a fabulous celebration."  Maybe it is just our social circle but most families we know have multiple kids and don't have an issue with drop offs.   As PP have said please be clear.  I love the wording along the lines of "If you won't be able to stay with your child please let us know so we can ensure aduquate adult supervision."  I am also a huge fan of hiring some young teens to help out at the party so that as a host I don't have to be trying to run everything.  If any of the kids you are inviting happen to have an older sibling that is 12+ ask the parents if you could hire them for the party. It will be the best $20 you have ever spent.[/quote]

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