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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't you suggest on the next night the kid comes over that they kids get to help you plan the menu and make the dinner - many kids will eat what they make, and having input into the meal will be fun for all. [/quote]

OP here.  I do this with my kids in the morning on the drive to school.  They're pretty good about coming up with decent dinner ideas.  Then in the course of the day, I shop for the ingredients and get most of the dinner prepped if not fully made.  When the kids get home from school everyone does homework.  The idea of taking 3 or 4 kids to the grocery store to go food shopping and then getting home to assist with homework and make dinner sounds daunting to me.  I know there are people out there that can do this, but I'm not one of them.[/quote]

Do you grocery shop one day at a time or say:  Would you like me to make something with chicken breasts, pork chops or tilapia based on what you already have from a previous shopping trip?[/quote]

I pretty much end up at the grocery store every day for one thing or another.  We never seem to run out of things at the same time.  Tomorrow I need to purchase, milk, eggs, cream, yogurt, and ketchup.  I'll just add whatever the kids want for dinner to the cart.  [/quote]

Are you OP, because I'm now totally confused.  You've gone from "we don't short order cook, the kids eat exactly what is served, because of house rules" to "every day my kids tell me what they want to eat, I go to the grocery store and purchase the ingredients, and then I prepare what they asked for".  Those are 2 very different philosophies.  [/quote]

I'm the OP.  I guess I am a short order cook then.  In the morning, I ask the kids what they want for dinner.  They tell me.  It's usually a realistic request.  They may not both agree on the dinner but both of my kids get to pick.  Maybe one child picks for Monday and the other child picks for Tuesday.  Then I shop and cook.  Whatever was made for dinner is what's for dinner.  My daughter is the one that loves meatloaf.  If that's what she picks, I expect my son to eat it.  My son loves lentils...my daughter not so much.  But again, I expect that she will eat the dinner that is prepared for the family.  And some mornings, when I know I won't have time during the day to go grocery shopping, I don't give the kids a choice.  Then I just make dinner from whatever is on hand and expect that they will eat it.

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In that case, I'd allow the visitor to have a say in what's chosen.

I'll also say that you seem to put an incredible amount of effort into making sure your kids eat dinner.  You see veggies and hummus, dinner rolls, and visitors as threats to their eating, and despite depriving them of food for hours before the meal, and letting them choose what they want, you still need to use a combination of bribe and punishment (sitting and watching your sibling eat dessert) to get them to eat.  When are your kids going to learn to decide for themselves how hungry they are, and to regulate their own eating?  
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Seriously.  The food control in this household is entirely too regimented.  Ease up![/quote]

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