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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what happens when there is too much of one profession in one geographic area.  [For all the tiger moms chanting: "lawyer, doctor, engineer, lawyer, doctor, engineer!"].  Seriously.

I second relocation, OP.  For your own peace of mind. [/quote]

I'd argue the exact opposite and suggest too many changes at the same time would be incredibly stressful for everyone in the family. [/quote]

Change is inevitable.  If people aren't willing to make sacrifices, things will only get worse.  You have to give some to get some.  It may not require relocation; it may require giving up private school tuition, giving up living near your families, it may require OP going back to work, either OP or DH or both changing jobs and/or professions, it may require something no one has thought of yet.  Until you have been through huge adversity, and numerous blockades, you have no idea how good change can be for you.

I am shocked most people can tie their own shoes, expecting life to always be smooth sailing is not realistic in any form. 
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It sounds like the OP's family was saving money and not necessarily always expecting smooth sailing.  But that doesn't mean you can't ask for advice when you hit a bump in the road.   I agree change is inevitable, but the question is how many changes to make in short order.  You don't necessarily move to Cleveland just because your hopes of pulling down a seven-figure salary are dashed.[/quote]

Seven figure salary?  Holy crap - OP is THAT why you married your DH?

And who says the answer is Cleveland, or if moving, or even Cleveland, would be bad?  D.C. is really the only answer, the only option, for some of you?  Wow.

Moving may or may not be the answer, but clearly something has go to give.  Changes have to be made.  OP can't just hide her head in the sand, and pretend everything will always be sunshine and lollipops.

Now I am wondering how many women marry their DH for their paycheck?  When DH and I married, we lived in to rooms and drove old cars.  We still drive old cars!  I can't imagine living my life for the next new car.  How sad.  No wonder OP is depressed!

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