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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I know you guys are still in shock but there is no need to panic just yet.  You said that he was not told to leave.  That's good.  He can look for another job from a place of relative strength.  So once the shock passes, he can start ramping up.  Depending on his practice area, the next month or so might be the best time.  January is slow in a lot of practice areas.  I do agree with others that you all need to start ramping down financially.

This part sounds preachy and I apologize.  Part of the panic I am sure you both feel is because you essentially put all you financial eggs in DH's basket.  You say you are worried, but it did not enter your mind that maybe you need to get back in the game.  Putting all the financial pressure on DH is not helping his mindset.  You are worried but he is the breadwinner - imagine how he feels.  Your OP talks about the loss of HHI, but you passed over the negative impact on your DH emotionally.  In the short terms that is where you should focus.  I understand the pull to SAH but it also may be time to see what is out there for you.  Because depending on what you can land, it may impact what type of job he seeks.  [/quote]

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