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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a black and white issue and I deeply resent those parents who make blanket statements condemning parents who medicate (not "drug") their children. Every parent must do a cost-benefit analysis for her own child and make the best decision possible in the moment based on the wide array of conflicting information that is out there.  My child is 12 and has been on meds since he was 8.   Yes, I am aware of the potential future side effects (he has no noticeable side effects currently.)  I weighed these potential unknown side effects against his current SUFFERING-- yes I use that word  because that is the right word.  My child was in pain -- deep emotional distress.  He was drowning before my eyes.  I could see where he would go without my intervention.  He would continue to spiral downward.  I read the data about kids with untreated ADHD, and the statistics regarding depression, drug abuse, car accidents and suicide.  I weighed those potential outcomes alongside the the potential negative outcomes. I tried other things; nothing worked.  I tried the meds.  They worked.  His weight and his sleep were not affected.  His life became immeasurably better.  So we continued to medicate AND provide all those other supports people like to yammer on about as if they are some kind of miracle cure (for most kids they are not -- they work well in complement to the meds.)  All of this considered, this is the best course for him based on the information available to me right now.

All I can say is a big go fuck yourself to anyone who dares to suggest that my husband and I, as parents, are doing this to get his  GPA from a 3.3. to a 3.9 or whatever.   This is so insulting.  I don't give a flying fuck about my kid's GPA.  I care about his emotional health.  I care that he can function day to day and feel like a normal human being who can live in society and carry on in a somewhat competent manner.  I'm tired of people having an opinion about what my thoughts and motivations are as a parent; I'm tired of people assuming I am lazy or just want a quick fix.  If you knew how many doctors appointments there have been, how many late nights researching, agonizing, discussing, how many conversations I've had with parents, teachers, and on and on and on it took before I made this very carefully considered decision.  You people should be ashamed of yourself.  Imagine your child coming home and rolling into a ball on the floor and weeping and weeping because he feels like a giant piece of crap because nothing in his life works or make sense, and think what you as a mother would do to lift that burden from your child if you could. [b] I would literally cut off my right arm if it meant my child could function without medication.[/b]  It will kill me if it turns out 20 years from now that he has some horrible condition caused by the medication. You don't think I live with that worry every day?  But if you have a bucket of water and your house starts burning down right before your very eyes, you throw the water on the fire and worry about what you'll drink at some later time.

Rant over.  Carry on. [/quote]

I wouldn't (cut off my right arm that is).  My son needs medication, and that's that.  If there is a horrible condition down the line, then we'll cross that bridge when it comes to it.  I treat what I can see.  I'm not going to worry about something that may, or may not, happen down the line.  That's ridiculous.[/quote]

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