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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, OP, why are you asking about this?  Are you dating someone who is or hopes to be a prof? Or are you writing a novel and looking for background?

If you're dating someone and want advice, tell us what his/her field is and, if they're in grad school, whether they have a research or teaching assistantship. [/quote]

Mostly just curiosity, but yes I am dating a PhD candidate![/quote]

And he's in a science field.[/quote]Hmmm, I don't know much about the market for PhDs in the sciences but here are a couple of things to consider: Is he in a top school?  Does he have a research or teaching assistantship that pays his way?  (That will be a sign to employers that he is a higher quality candidate.) Does he have an adviser who is helpful, good at mentoring him on how to manage a professional career and publish, and is also well-connected in the field and can introduce him to the right people?  The adviser is really important.  I made the mistake of coming up through an interdisciplinary department with few committed faculty and an adviser who was clueless about the demands of an academic career.

But ultimately, as I believe a pp has said, you shouldn't marry someone based on their profession but on the strength of their character and the level of your compatibility. [/quote]

I agree with this. Even if your BF wants to be a professor, there are very few slots these days.  If he's not a top student at a top 25 school, it's likely to be a teaching position without any research and very low paid, or a job outside academia.

signed, a current tenure-track prof who did a very long job search[/quote]

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