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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok OP tough love time.  I was in your shoes (but with an amazing husband) and I was a bitch. My anxiety and depression (lack of sleep) had driven me almost insane.  So I get how you are feeling.  HOWEVER:

I see lots of EXCUSES in your posts.  You have received many support and suggestions and I know you are overwhelmed and tired (but it sounds like your DC does sleep) but you need to make some effort to fix the problem.  It goes both ways.

First- stop making excuses for the OB and not having a PCP.  Call the hospital where you delivered and see if they can help.  Did you deliver here?  There IS a way to find out if you have depression NOW rather than waiting 3-4 weeks.
Second- you need to get into counseling with your DH if you want to save your marriage.  You can bring the baby if you have to but life will NOT get better if you do not address your marriage.
Third- Do you have family?  I did not read you mentioning them but I suppose they are not in the area?  You need to lean on your family for help.  This is the time you need HELP.  If they wont help you look at your finances and get a helper during the week.

Listen, I feel for you I do because I was there a few months ago.  BUT you will not get out of this without doing something about it.  Stop the excuses and think about the next steps to take to get you and your life and marriage back on track.[/quote]

I did set up an appointment for tomorrow.  It's just with a counselor, but it is what is available now.  I did not deliver in DC - where yes, all my family is - I'm not sure who to call at the hospital here.

As far as being a bitchy roommate, I don't want sex.  I turn him down when he wants it.  I am beyond terrified of getting pregnant again.  I cry a lot and tell him he doesn't understand.  YES, that's all I'm doing that makes him call me bitchy.  Turning down sex and crying.No, it doesn't make sense.[/quote]

PP here.  Ok great on the counselor.  I am thinking when you are there they will be able to tell you how to approach your marriage situation.  Because its not going to get better unless you really work at it and probably get couples counseling.  We did that...prebaby thank god!

I had some issues post delivery and call L&D and speak to them and see how they can help you.  My hospital was great when I called as an out patient and they might have resources or someone who can call you back or even come out to your house.  Call L&D where you delivered.

I am sorry you family is not there...but if it makes you feel any better our family was here and completely disappointed us.  It was an utter shit show I am still not over completely.  Do you have a strong relationship with your mom?  Can you talk to her?  Can she come visit to give you a break so you can get some time with your DH?

Obviously you and your DH are having communication issues.  Both parties are to blame.  I bet he is freaking out because his life and wife turned upside down and the best thing he can do it blame you and call you a bitch.  Is that right...NO but its how he is "dealing." And I am sure, like you said, you have been a bitch, but you have been through hell and you are scared and your life has changed.  Its a cyclical blame game and it just gets worse.  And since you ar eboth overwhelmed its hard to see clear and get out of the mess.

I hope the counselor can help you individually tomorrow and please ask about how to get your marriage back on track.  If you want it to, it will.  But both you and DH have to really work at it.  Hang in there![/quote]

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