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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reasons not to have an affair? Same as always - you're not a faithless oathbreaker. Don't like your husband? Deal with that. Either fix the problem or end the marriage. [/quote]

OP here again. Apparently I cannot fix the problem, and I don't want to screw up my kids' lives just because their dad and I are more like roommates now. Equally, I don't want to screw up my boss' family either, or destroy another women's sense of security (her happiness is already compromised, I am sure).

Btw, my husband would have nothing at all against me having affairs. He has his own. So the "breaking-the-wow"-part is not a problem at all.[/quote]

I haven't read the whole thread, but had to chime in.

First, living like roommates IS screwing up your kids' lives.  Sorry, but it's true.  Hey, no one has the perfect childhood.  If you and dh can't work it out, you should divorce.  I do not say that lightly, but kids need happy parents.  Whatever happens in a child's life is what they grow up considering to be normal.  What you are giving them is a fucked up vision of marriage.  Better to have no marriage and happy parents who live apart.  Would you want your kids to have a marriage like yours?  Because that is the likely outcome here.

And as for your boss, as someone who has been fucking their boss for a little while now, let me tell you why you should not do it.  Number one, when you stop wanting to do it but boss still wants to, that gets awkward and can even make you afraid to break it off because you don't know whether he'll fire you.  When you take away sex from a man, especially good sex, which illicit sex always is, they tend to get pissed.  Plus, your coworkers will probably find out.  And, when/if you leave the job, this guy is going to have to be a reference, right?  Better to be a woman he wishes he'd slept with than one that dumped him when someone calls him for a reference.[/quote]

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