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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a high school friend I connected with via facebook who lost like 30+ lbs over a year. She looks great now. She started posting several selfies a day, every day. I generally tried to be encouraging, even though, at some point, it does become a little bit much. Like narcissistic rather than inspiring. And she'd post stuff like "I post these to inspire people, you too can do this." Slightly more annoying, but whatever. But this quickly led into the "what's YOUR excuse" type posts, the kind of aggro motivation that you see a lot of these days. And lots of former fat shaming. Like she'd say stuff like UGH this was me a year ago, I was fat and watched TV all the time and just looked gross. And she was probably not really like, obese, probably some people reading thought, well gee, that's my size now..  She also started posting pictures of fat people kind of mocking them. It was really strange - like she was allowed to be really mean to "fatties" because she was a "former fatty." And it all just got to be too much - this assumption that her priorities were "right" but other people were lazy because they didn't want to spend 2 hours in the gym every morning, and so on. So she lost a ton of friends (I didn't unfriend her but I did hide her feed). But as people were bailing out on her friendship, she would post stuff like "haters are hating on me because they're jealous, but I'm not going to stop posting and helping people" etc. It was baffling, because anyone could see how it was not her newfound fitness that was turning people off, nor jealousy, but the constant obnoxious self-congratulating mixed with the fat bashing, etc.

The reason I share this story, OP, was that your OP seemed like you might go down this road. Talking about your fitness is one thing, but is it necessary to talka bout the sex w/ your husband, etc? It just seems like you overshare about the weight loss, and I wonder if you'd checked to see how you're talking about it - if you're crossing the line into boasting or fat shaming others, etc. [/quote]

I picked up on that too- more sex. Who cares? How is that at all relevant here? And I have to agree with pp about your choices being boring. Live a little - have some dessert when out with friends. And I'm not large either. I would feel bad if someone ordered the most healthy thing and I wanted a second glass of wine or some high calorie dish that I don't eat all week. You're coming across as hard to relate to. [/quote]

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