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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Science doesn't define "race" though, OP. Society does. Race is socially constructed and I think that your perceptions of  women of color are driven by socially constructed stereotypes that you do not find appealing. Maybe you've got personal issues in your past related to a particular woman of color that in turn are fueling your lack of attraction. Maybe you are responding to the abundant messaging that the beauty ideal in this country of a light skinned woman.

This is a completely separate issue from your justification of potential infidelity based on race, though. That just makes you kind of a creep.[/quote]

You are almost spot on. Race is often a social construction today and is an outdated mid-century concept. So that is why I prefer to identify on the basis of ethnicity. I can hardly see how you ascribe socially constructed stereotypes as the basis for my natural feeling, when the original post clearly stated that I have had intimate and romantic relationships with Black women? The fact that women of other ethnic backgrounds give our connection that extra factor, does not mean that I do not have a romantic connection with women of similar ethnicity.

Are you passively trying to say something else about prejudices in our society, but using my post as a weak pretext?

OP.[/quote]

I don't think I was saying anything passively. There IS a beauty standard for light skin in this country. Even black women who are considered attractive by the main stream are, by and large, lighter skinned black women with features that appear more European than African. They're the women you see on magazines and runways. There are exceptions, obviously, but the reality is that light skin and European features are considered the most attractive.

As for your other remarks, I don't really understand what you're trying to say. In your other posts, you've suggested that you'd cheat on a woman who doesn't have that "extra" special feature. So I guess maybe don't date women who you don't feel a special connection with. If that connection only comes with white British women, don't date women that aren't white and British, problem solved.[/quote]

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