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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Last time I checked the wedding was about the bride and groom. Who cares what the dad thinks/wants. ITA with the PP who said that her dad would be upset if she compromised her beliefs for his ego. [/quote]

It is not just about the bride and groom (or bride and bride, or groom and groom).  [b]It is about both of them leaving their families or origin and creating a new family.  [/b]There is beautiful symbolism in that and nothing wrong with honoring your family and involving them in your wedding in meaningful ways.  We found ways to incorporate nearly everyone who was truly  meaningful to us - family AND friends.  This narcissistic "it's my/our day" crap really bothers me.  If you don't think it holds powerful meaning for parents, you either have no children or have no feelings.  I dread the thought of my son marrying a woman who has your attitude and values her own family and future family with such disdain.[/quote]

Good gawd!  What were you, 22 when you got married?  Just out of college and didn't live with your BF before you got married?  I was 35 when I got married, hadn't lived with my family of origin in 18 years and had been living with DH for 3 years.  DH and I didn't need a wedding to create our new 'family'.  Our parents were grateful we got married - and had a ceremony instead of eloping.  DH and I walked down the aisle together.   You had the wedding you wanted, your kids should have the ones they want. [/quote]

No, I was 29 and had lived with my DH for two years.  I guess I just value and honor my family more than you.  [/quote]

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