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[quote=Anonymous]See what other people your age are doing isn't, completely useless, it can give a sense of what people in similar situations are capable to achieving, which is helpful both to the person whose goals are too lofty and those whose goals are too meager. Either way, though, it's only a data point you can use as a part of setting your own goals for yourself. Do you guys have goals? Not just general, "We eventually want to have a baby and save for college and retirement," but more of the, "This is where would like to be in five years, and here's our plan for getting there" variety.

That said, if I were in her shoes, I would be feeling very anxious about this situation as well. She's married to someone who's been underemployed for a year, and who now wants to just quit working and pursue more education rather than getting a job and working on the education on the side. I'd be worried about what happens in two years when you've gotten the new degree/certification/whatever and the perfect job still doesn't arrive - would you accept whatever you could get, or would you hold out for the job that had the salary you thought you should get, or want to get retrained again? Right now it's not clear you have the track record of hard work that she can rely upon to know you're committed to working hard and making your family a priority in your job calculus.[/quote]

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