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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband's first marathon was when I was nine months pregnant and he has done about 6 more marathons since...and we have three kids under the age of 7. We have traveled with him, met him at local races at the finish line, and cheered him along the way. Sometimes he goes alone. Some years he doesn't train. It was not always easy for me to drag the kids to the race, but I did it happily because I wash proud of him and wanted to share the happy experience with my kids. Likewise, when I started getting back in shape after having kids, he cheered me on during my races and triathlons and brought our kids to watch.  Exercize has just become part of our family's daily lives. My 7 years old just competed in his first triathlon this summer. I bike or run with one of my kids at least twice a week.

I would try to be less resentful and more encouraging of your husband. He is taking care of himself and setting a good example for the kids. He definitely needs to change his running schedule and run early morning or evening though. Next time he goes out, one or two of the kids should be in the jogging stroller with him or biking next to him. Next time he plans a long run for saturday, you plan something for yourself sunday morning.

If he will make adjustments, you can make it work and your family will be better for it. He will thank you for it one day, and will hopefully repay you when it is your turn in whatever hobby you pursue. Marriage doesn't have to be 50/50 100% of the time. Sometime you give a little more, sometimes he gives a little more. 
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My husband does at least 8 races a year and runs everyday.  It does not bother me, because he wakes up early or uses his lunch break.  And if he does leave me with the kids, he is grateful and then let's me have time too.

The only thing i REFUSE to do is take the kids to his races.  I have 2 under 5.  It is impossible to push a stroller through the crowds and/or stop the kids from bolting.  And waiting for dad to cross the finish line is interesting for like a minute.   These are not family events for young kids.

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