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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This was an old thread rehashed but to the new poster who bumped it, I say go for having a baby if you want one at 38 years old.  With or without him.

My spouse was just like the spuse of the OP of this thread.  Used to make over $250k per year until he lost his job in a dying industry.  I was the sole breadwinner for far too long because he couldnn't accept a job beneath him.  Thank god -- he now has a government job in a related field, making barely $100k.  In my book this is great money and stbility -- so much better for our child and relieves the tight financial pressure on me as sole breadwinner.  It took two years for him to see things this way.

These are the concrete steps I took, that I think helped:
-Make him go to your county's employmeny center.  He thought it was beneath him at first but the groups helped him - he observed others who found work, and those who didn't bc theyd only accept a certain job.

-Find other friends in the dying industry who have made a shift to a job.  It helped him to know that former colleagues were now accepting lower paid jobs, including of the type he has now.  Others are SAHM not by choice.  Few have landed jobs at their former level of compensation.

-Be kind, exploding in anger does nothimg to help though I did it lots - couldn't help it.  Pray to god.

All the best to you.  To the 38 yo poster, go for having a baby!![/quote]

You sound like a real peach. I can feel the contempt oozing out of each sentence. What made you choose a loser like your husband?[/quote]

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