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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it must have been very hard for you to not have your dad at home while you were growing up, and harder still to see his partner's child getting the day-to-day fathering that you craved.  Your sense of displacement is valid.

As a prior poster said, if you had a sister, would it bother you if he walked her down the aisle first?  If not, this isn't about wanting to go first, it is about feeling like the partner's daughter got something from your dad that you didn't get and means something to him that you don't (because he raised her on a day-to-day basis).  I get that.

Try to remember that you are his bloodline.  You already have a relationship with him that she can never have.  Also, the fact that he had her and her mother in his life probably made him a healthier and happier person, and perhaps that made him a better father to you.  It's hard, but you need to act in kindness here, and try to embrace the happiness of the moment for your father.

If you choose to talk to your dad about your feelings of displacement, be sure to clarify that you WANT him to walk her down the aisle because it is the right thing to do; you're just feeling a little jealous and struggling with the fact that they have a relationship that you couldn't have with him.[/quote]

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