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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many of the posts in this thread point to why people have so little family support and no one to call in a time of need.

So many here are against even doing a favor to help out your brother. Helping isn't supposed to be about what is in it for me. Looking after a couple kids for a couple hours a day is not the insanely difficult task many are trying to make it out to be. I have helped my sister out a few times with her kids and it really isn't a big deal unless you make it one. Obviously in OPs case it is all a HUGE deal. I don't even get why she is entertaining going. Just say no, I don't want to help out.

Makes me very grateful for my own family.[/quote]

Who is saying that?  OP was willing to help-- note she is a MOM of a 4 year old, so not like a single, childless sister/aunt coming to help-- but you shouldn't treat family like hired help.  I would be really embarrassed if asked a family member to come out to help me for a week and provide free child care, and then asked them to take a 6am flight with a layover (with a KID).[/quote]

I think that is where wealth and the rich mindset comes in. I didn't grow up poor so the idea of taking a flight on miles or having a stop over or even taking an early flight isn't embarrassing to me. It isn't beneath me. I am surprised by how many people think it is so offensive and that the only proper way to fly is a direct flight booked at Ops convenience regardless of price.

I can't really imagine complaining about how my brother is such an asshole because OMG he thought I would fly on a flight using miles or he thought I would do a layover. Me a layover - who does he think I am, some common traveler.

I fly on miles with layovers and redeyes sometimes with 2 young kids so the idea doesn't strike me as some absolutely offensive impossible thing that he should be ashamed for even suggesting.

He isn't treating family like hired help, he is treating her like family coming to do him a favor. People don't pay airfare for hired help, they don't include them in weekend plans when they are back and no help is needed.

For all she knows her SIL's family stayed in a hotel booked with miles or flew on flights booked with miles or maybe they had a layover on their vacation. And even if they didn't, life isn't a competition. Brother can spend his money however he wants and Op can say no to any request if the compensation isn't up to her standards. [/quote]

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