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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, but asking OP to do this is is complete BS.  I assume OP is a SAHM, otherwise how can she just pick up and leave for that length of time? Isn't the 4 year old in preschool?

So, OP is being asked to be the childcare, the maid, the cook, the entertainer, etc for her nephews.  She will have to do laundry, make and clean up meals, clean up the house, do grocery shopping, provide entertainment and supervision for the kids, etc. She will have to pay for her own food, etc while she is there, and I assume if the food runs out for the nephews as well.  I hope she is offered a car to drive, and when the tank gets low she has to refill it. This is ridiculous.

I had surgery a few years ago and needed to be on bedrest for a month.  My MIL volunteered to help. We paid for her plane tickets and a rental car.  We got babysitters to give her breaks.  We paid for all the food.  I never, in a million years, would take advantage of someone like this [b]and on top of it have the Gaul to paint it as a "vacation" and not just be direct and say "sorry, we are in a bind for work with no one to watch the kids, can you help[/b]?"

If the SILs family is so great, why can't they do it? If kids already have a nanny, why can't she do it?[/quote]

Ops post does not make it sound like this is what happened at all. They asked her if she would be willing to come out and look after the kids for a couple hours in the evening while they were away and then on the weekends they could all hang out together, just like if she came to them on vacation. They offered to fly her out. She has done this before - she knew right from the start it was about helping with the kids in the evening. I don't see where they somehow tried to trick her like it was a vacation. it sounds like they were direct. Why would they cover her airfare if she was coming for vacation? That would be odd - obviously she knew they were offering that because they were asking her a favor.

I am sure they will find others to do it. Maybe they thought that Ops and her son would like to get to spend time with their nephews / cousins and get to spend two weekends visiting with brother and sister in law without any expense to her - combine two things in one. Maybe since money was tight for OP they thought she might want to come. Maybe she has offered in the past to help out or after doing this last time, said she would do it again.

I think hearing brother and SILs side of the story would be quite different.

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